Reflecting on the last 40 years of clinical practice, Dr Lee has found that over 50% of consultations were involved in helping patients who are unhappy and suffering from stress. Rather than reducing his service to society in his partial retirement, he has decided to put what he has learned about the management of stress and unhappiness in this web page for all to read, in the hope that his hard-learned lessons, advice and homilies may help some stressed-out and disenchanted people, not only from Canberra, but from all over the world, find peace and happiness.
This work is continually in progress. Dr Lee adds new material to it regularly. Do re-visit every couple of months for new inspirations.
What is a “Life Coach”?
| “Success and failure are not the consequences of good luck or misfortune. They are the direct or indirect consequences of what you have done, or have failed to do.” Original quote of Dr Lee |
Human beings are creatures of habit. An individual’s, or a business entity’s, achievements (or failure to achieve,) is a sum total of their “mindset” (or corporate vision), and personal habits (or corporate culture & procedures).
How events unfold is often beyond one’s control. However, how one interprets any event and how one reacts to it, are entirely up to the individual or the business.
One may see failures and setbacks as catastrophes or clear reasons to give up, or one may see them as building blocks and stepping stones to bigger and better outcomes. This, is “mindset”, or you can call it “attitude”; “outlook”; “beliefs”; “value systems” or whatever other terms with which you are familiar.
One often looks at “successful” people and marvel that they seem to be born with more gas in their tanks and have more hours in their days. The truth is that they simply have more “effective” work ethic and habits.
Most people who feel unhappy or unfulfilled blame bad luck or misfortune for their predicaments.
The truth is, they, too, can achieve happiness and fulfillment in their lives by making appropriate adjustments to their “mindset” and “habits”.
A “life coach” is the person who can help one make these adjustments.If one is not happy with one’s current situation and wishes one can, or should be, happier and more successful, one may benefit from the service of a “life Coach”
How is “Life Coaching” different from consultation with a doctor?
A conventional doctor helps an individual on an episodic basis by providing solutions to an immediate threat to one’s physical or mental well being.
A “Life Coach” aims to fundamentally change an individual or business so that they become significantly more focussed and efficient by establishing SMART goals and objectives and then achieving them with more effective habits and procedures.The process requires dedication and commitment, from both the coach and the clients, over a much longer period of time than that which is achievable under a conventional doctor/patient interaction in a medical clinic.
| “If you sow seeds for melons, you get melons, if you sow seeds for peas, you get peas…” Traditional Chinese Proverb |
How will one benefit from “Life Coaching”?
If one keeps doing things the way one has been doing, one will continue to get the same outcomes.
If one desires a different, more favourable outcome, one must be prepared to make adjustment to one’s attitude and life habits and take advantage of the objective guidance of a “life coach”.
It takes determination, discipline, and more importantly, time, to effect a change. It cannot be achieved by just turning up to a few consultations or seminars.
By adopting positive mindset and developing effective habits, one will experience a fresh zest and appreciation for what one is doing, thus leading to a life which is more meaningful.How a “life coach” may help you
Your success and achievements to date are a reflection of your mindsets and habits, some of them must have been quite good, which account for your success so far.If you are perfectly happy with your life, your career, your relationships, and your accomplishments, I say congratulations, well done! It would be great if you could visit my website (www.happinessdoctor.org) and share some of the wisdom of your success so that others may benefit from your experience.You can skip the rest of this informationHowever, if you find that you are now foundering, stuck in a rut, maybe comfortable but not exactly moving forward or going places, it means your past mindsets and habits are not meeting the challenges of your current circumstances, and some of them may need to be adjusted.If you agree that adjusting your mindset and habits will change your life positively, if you feel you can do better with your talents but are not sure how, if you are prepared and committed to invest your time and resources to achieve the higher level of accomplishment and self fulfilment which you wish for, then you will benefit from the help of a “Life Coach”.
Dr Lee has retired and does not work as a life coach any more.
This is how he envisage a “life coach” may help you…| “Some people say : KNOWING IS EASY, DOING IS HARD I say: KNOWING IS HARD, DOING IS EASY” Dr Sun Yat Sen, founding father of modern China |
To begin with, a life coach may ask you to make a detailed, specific, and focused written description of your current situation: your predicaments, your fears and frustrations, your dreams; and aspirations; who and what are helping you to reach them or preventing you from reaching them. Then he will ask you to outline how and what you have been doing so far; and what effect your efforts have produced.
Next, a life coach may help you examine the ways you react to situations, i.e. help you understand your “personality profile” and establish “SMART” (Specific, Measurable, Attainable, Relevant, and Timely) life goals.
Then, over the next twelve months, a life coach may help you break down mental barriers, adjust the way you look at, and react to events, and gradually establish effective habits, via text chats, regular face to face (or on line) meetings and debriefings, as well as making use of self-directed home study materials.
Remember, unlike a doctor, who prescribe solutions to your problems, a life coach’s mission is to help you discover your own inner strength, potentials, and enlightenment so that you can enjoy the fulfillment and happiness which are already surrounding you.
